Shades of Grayness

walking the line between dating and just friends... because to me, it's in shades of grayness

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Irrational Frustration #13

This frustration stems from the first post on my blog.

It bothers me when girls want to be friends after they have dated and dumped you... I really see no reason for this act of supposed "kindness." What are they really saying? That you are not quite good enough to date and spend quality time with, BUT, that you are cool and funny enough to occupy their time, unless, of course, they have better plans..?

Do they really think that we are going to be "friends" after I get married, or find someone else who can better occupy my time?

Attempting to be friends with someone who you have feelings for, knowing now that the feeling is not mutual, is as bad as a poke in the eye...

Spare me the "just friends" talk please.




Saturday, March 7, 2009

Dating Rule #26

Chivalry is not dead.

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Steps to Recovery #2.5

I have had some questions about the telepathic pick-up from the Steps to Recovery #2. Sometimes, our earnest telepathic concentration will lead to weird faces which discourages not only our game, but those who are on the receiving end of this technique.

It's a little lengthy, but it's an important process.

Let me tell you what I do... and it is a personal favorite.
I simply put out the Vibe.

One of the most important steps in this process is the pre-game. You have to be mentally prepared to put out the Vibe and have many girls, or guys respond positively to it. Knowing that after you walk into the next dance party, many new, exciting, attractive people will be all up on you, is all part of the pre-game. 

Now you are ready to Vibe.

Step 1. Walk into the house party, scope it out, walk up to a confident looking person and say, "Hey, we can start the party now, I'm here!" Then turn around and begin to scope the party. (You can laugh to yourself a little because you just Negged that confident person so badly that their game will be thrown off that entire night, they will not pose any threat at all.)

Step 2. After finding some perspectives, who might be lucky enough to talk to you, find the nearest object to lean on while keeping an eye on them. A chair, table, plant, couch, friend/wingman, and even the wall will work. 

Step 3. (This is a very important step and must be followed.) Pull your pants up just slightly, so that your curves/back pockets (guys as well) are easier to see. Flip your shirt up to your belt line. Bend or lean ever so slightly on your object so that your "curves" are in the perspectives general direction, also, you need to be able to keep your eye on that lucky person because their reaction will be priceless. 

Step 4. Now, put your confident face on. It can include, but not limited too, the slightly raised eyebrow of style, the smirk of success, or even the pursed lips of runway modeling. With all three, these poor perspectives will have no chance.

Step 5. Mind bullets! Most people can almost feel when someone is looking at them, like a sixth sense if you will. Just let the telepathy fly, preferably in their direction, or else you will get drifters stepping in your business.

Step 6. Take a mental picture of the girls, or guys face when they turn around and their eyes are drawn straight to your back pockets. Most of the time, they will slow their dancing or even stop, their mouth will go from a "I'm have a great time" smile to a "Well, Hello!" smile. Naturally after they get a good look, they will then take a look at the rest of you. Little do they know that you will be looking right back at them when they finally make it to your eyes. They will blush... you should smile, and if your feeling extra confident, wink with a finger point or, dare I say, the double finger point.

Step 7. The next thing you do is all up to you. Whether you were just feeling charitable and wanted to give them a glimpse of beauty, or you want to make new "friends" is all up to you. 

Good Luck and let me know how it goes.

Dating Rule #11

Don't text while you are on a date. It is very flattering to a guy, who is going out on a limb to get to know you, when a girl pulls out her phone during a date and turns it off. 

Better safe than sorry... Don't know if you are on a date or if it's just a paid hang-out..? Be polite and enjoy the company, even if you would rather be somewhere else with somebody else.

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Steps to Recovery #4

Delete their Facebook/Myspace profile. What is the point with attempting to socialize or network with past flames...? 
Unless you want to be deemed "Creeper of the Year" by shadesofgrayness.com, delete them from your social networking life.

Thursday, February 5, 2009

Steps to Recovery #3

Learn the art of Negging. 
A "Neg" is basically a backhanded compliment or action. Using this action on most women will likely intrigue them and shake their confidence. This way, you break down the confidence barrier that disables most men, and are able to have some successful flirtatious times. 
My personal favorite Neg, which I have found to be successful in the social experiments I have conducted, is softly pinching her on the back of the arm. Its just a little reminder to her...

Quote of the week

Shelly: "Wow, Philip, you are so funny. If you lived in the same town as me I would date you."